Don’t confuse my activism for self obsession

In response to one of my blog posts in December I received a comment that really stopped me in my tracks. My blog post was aiming highlight a lack of acceptance in the fashion industry in regards to bigger bodies. I used my self-doubt as an experience, suggesting how a lack of visibility and role models, how are we ever meant to feel accepted.

The comment was honestly really surprising:

“Why don’t you try being less self-obsessed and think about other people more often. Then maybe your problems will be solved”.

The person who follows me on Instagram, genuinely believed that I am a self-obsessed person, and that is the root of my issue. When in fact the entire point of the blog post was the complete opposite. I am not seeking change just for myself, but for anyone who feels ignored and underrepresented.

It worried me, and I sat and thought about how to address this. Is this what the average reader of the Daily Mail, thinks about younger people who are actively trying to make a change in this world by championing diversity, acceptance and visibility? Are we seen as self-obsessed? Self-interested? Or even naively selfish?

I am always surprised by what people think others intentions are. I would just like to clear up any aspersions. I am very vocal about the lack of visibility for non-binary, GNC and plus size bodes. This is coming from the fact that I hardly ever see myself represented in the media, which is not selfish, this SHOULD BE NORMAL.

I also do this because I know I am not the only one like myself. I know that by using my platform and my voice I can slowly begin to change the tide, and see more acceptance and visibility for everyone. That mass media see us as anything but a trend or reactionary, is RIDICULOUS. We are here to stay and we will not accept anything less.

In saying this, writing it in the manner of SJP at her window, I couldn’t help but wonder how can I ever make a difference? Well just by existing, being and enjoying who I am. Which is my advice to everyone who is trying to change the world we live in.

In terms of visibility, it is no coincidence that I have chosen to share these thoughts whilst embracing my full queer energy. I am trotting my big body, in this stunning jumpsuit which the Daily M readers would lose their minds over, that’s right ladies I got it from your section, and I look stunning.

What @amybellaxo (yes I am naming and shaming) got confused over is so poignant here. By using pictures of myself, I am not showcasing my self-obsession. I am allowing anyone who stumbles across this, to see that there is someone just like them, that they are valid and they are wonderful.